Many newlyweds are given the following advice: “a happy marriage is a selfless journey in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” If you want to screw up your marriage, be selfish, let your partner down, and do not prioritize their needs. You can do this by always putting yourself first or putting them last or at least after yourself. There are simple ways you can start doing this even today. When choosing where to get dinner, ignore your partner when they say they want Chinese food and order the dinner you want instead. Sure, you and your partner have taken out Greek food the last three Fridays, but you’ve really been in the mood for feta, and that’s what matters. Being a selfish partner is not just about putting your happiness first but is also about disregarding your partner’s happiness altogether.
Another effective way to be selfish is to always demand that your partner is there for you without ever being there for them. Be selfish with their time and assume they have nothing better going on than spending time with you. Chances are, your partner is a real person with hobbies, interests, and dreams. If you want to screw up your marriage, act as if they are anything but and assume that all they care about is you. While you’re at it, make sure you are always the main topic of conversation. When your partner tries to tell you a story or vent, make it about you. If you play your cards right, your partner will feel unappreciated and ignored and since you’re being selfish, you can act like it’s not your problem.
Another really effective way to be selfish in your marriage is to be a selfish lover. Once your needs are met, call it quits. Don’t go out of your way to make your partner feel sexy or fulfilled. If your partner is generous with their love, don’t return the favor. If you couple selfish behavior with some poor communication, your marriage will be in bad shape in no time.