Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching. While most advice columns will bestow the virtues of what you should be doing for your special someone…this article is focused on how to celebrate Valentines in a blended family situation. Our particular bent is on how to use Valentine’s Day to help “normalize” things for your family law case. Here are 3 ideas.
- Use Valentines to reach out to your ex…: This may sound odd, and it doesn’t have to occur in a “loving” type scenario, but use Valentine’s to mend fences. At one point you did have feelings for the other parent or your ex. You don’t have to go overboard with a gift or anything but consider sending a “nice” valentine’s to your ex in order to break new ground of cooperation. Here’s an example:
“Dear ex: I know we’ve had our differences over time, but on this day I do remember how we shared some great time and memories together. I just wanted to write to you today to wish you a great day in whatever you do and hope that we can work together and be friends in the remaining year.”
- Use Valentine’s for your child: Again you don’t have to go overboard on this but consider getting your child a little special something on this day and let your child know how much you love him/her. We all need to hear that we are loved and your children are no different. Take every occasion you can to tell them how much you love them.
- Give some extra time or ask for extra time: Maybe you don’t have your child on Valentines. Consider asking the other parent for a couple of hours to get ice cream with your child on this special day. If you do have your child consider offering a couple of hours of time with the other parent. An unprovoked act of kindness goes a long way when conflicts arise in the future.